A banana in your ear

A banana in your ear

Don't try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it irritates the pig!

Like the businessman who goes into a bar, sits down, and sees this fellow with a banana in his ear - a banana in his ear!
And he thinks, “I wonder if I should mention that to him. No, it's none of my business.”
But the thought nags at him. So after having a drink or two, he says to the fellow, “Excuse me, ah, you've got a banana in your ear.”
The fellow says, “What?”
The businessman repeats, “You've got a banana in your ear.”
Again the fellow says, “What was that?”
“You've got a banana in your ear!” the businessman shouts.
“Talk louder,” the fellow says, “I've got a banana in my ear!”

Awareness

Anthony de Mello

Being supported

Being supported

There was a woman in a therapy group I was conducting once. She was a religious sister. She said to me, “I don’t feel supported by my superior.” So I said, “What do you mean by that?” And she said, “Well, my superior, the provincial superior, never shows up at the novitiate where I am in charge, never. She never says a word of appreciation.” I said to her, “All right let's do a little role playing. Pretend I know your provincial superior. In fact, pretend I know exactly what she thinks about you. So I say to you (acting the part of the provincial superior), 'You know, Mary, the reason I don't come to that place you're in is because it is the one place in the province that is trouble-free, no problems. I know you're in charge, so all is well.' How do you feel now?” She said, “I feel great.”
Then I said to her, “All right, would you mind leaving the room for a minute or two? This is part of the exercise.” So she did. While she was away, I said to the others in the therapy group, “I am still the provincial superior, O.K.? Mary out there is the worst novice director I have ever had in the whole history of the province. In fact, the reason I don't go to the novitiate is because I can't bear to see what she is up to. It's simply awful. But if I tell her the truth, it's only going to make those novices suffer all the more. We are getting somebody to take her place in a year or two; we are training someone. In the meantime I thought I would say those nice things to her to keep her going. What do you think of that?” They answered, “Well, it was really the only thing you could do under the circumstances.” Then I brought Mary back into the group and asked her if she still felt great. “Oh yes,” she said.

Awareness

Anthony de Mello